Tip: Don't Shave Your Bikini Area
Monday May 2, 2005
Bathing suit season is almost here so do yourself a favor and keep your razor away from your bikini line. Why? Shaving causes red bumps and ingrown hairs. The best hair removal method for the bikini area is waxing, the Brazilian wax, laser or pulsed light.
If you choose waxing, go to a pro. If you use a cream depilatory, restrict it to the bikini line. What can you wax? Your legs and your underarms. Check out my Hair removal: What should you wax, tweeze, shave and thread for all the info you need for summer (including exactly what happens when you opt for the "Brazilian"). Photo credit: Allure.com.
Comments
Women often feel that it is necessary to shave to be considered beautiful. Shaving is a Western phenomenon that started in 1915 when companies saw that it was profitable. The first ad in the campaign to end underarm hair read `Summer Dress and Modern Dancing combine to make necessary the removal of objectionable hair.’ The media is always tell us what is necessary and how our bodies should look. Revolt I say! Here’s to all the hairy sisters out there who decide for themselves, and are redefining beauty.
Damn right.
We are always told that we have to get rid of our body hair to be sexy. Its another form of oppression. Lets stop imitating porn stars and be delighted with our beautiful bodies.
Shaving your bikini line isn’t just for porn stars. It’s an excellent way to increase the sensitivity between you and your partner. Also Deirdre, the Egyptians used a form of wax removal for unwanted hair. Our puritanical beliefs taught us such a thing was a sign of a “dirty woman”
Umm..sorry girls but hair is ugly..didn’t you realise you should be pleasing men and not yourselves..by all means look like apes but forget getting a guy
Hey maybe you should learn to spell before telling women to please men, that’s bullshit. Maybe you should look at your calendar and see what year it is, maybe you’re lost.
Exactly Paul. Some women are more focused on themselves and they forget about the men. Guys hate hair plain and simple. Hair is gross and ugly. If you ever want a guy who will please you down there, you must shave. It is well worth it.
haha! Apes. Well maybe they will find an ape man who never shaves his face and has an over excess of hair on his chest and back. EWWW!!
women who don’t shave are most likely over weight and fuggly. Ask a guy he will tell you what he wants. Hello?????????
I think any woman has the right to shave or not shave down below. I personally.. do, but that is my choice. I feel more comfortable and that is what matters. Whichever makes the woman feel more confident, she should do. And while we are on that subject, if a man wants a woman to shave their hair down below, then that man better damn sure not be excessively hairy on his back or chest. Not all of us can look like Jenna Jameson.. so men, get over yourselves.
I think a natural woman is more sexy than a woman who “design like a child”.
Especially shaved vaginas are very unsexy, unfeminine and -last but not least – UNNATURAL.
Body hair is natural and not unattractive. I personally find women who don’t shave more fun to look at. I also admire their noncomformity.
Shaved eyebrows, arms, pubes.. those look *really* odd to me.
omg r u tapped in ead…..u fink shaved underarms looks wrong on girls. Well if you like your woman looking like men then fair enough but thats the real odd thing here. Woman who dont save their armpits are just lazy mingers who dont have any respect for the way they look.
overall do guys of all ages prefer a girl who is shaven to a girl that is more nateral ?
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I like women as bare as possible, with the exception of the hair on their heads. It’s much sexier.
Just face it, no one wants to see a hairy bush, especially when you’re wearing a swim suit and a piece of your forest has crept out.
Shave it!
I love to see a bush in any season. Don’t mow it, grow it and show it. A lot of men like natural, adult women and not your prepubescent ideal.
I wax everything below my head.
Nothing looks better to me than a totally unshaven woman walking on the beach-natuaral, soft, and beautiful. Shaving is actually what I would consider a “fetish”. It’s just another example of useless conformity born of the desire to make money (razors,wax,etc.). Shave? For what? Just to look good? Cultural nonsense!
It’s American Capitalism at it’s best. Anything to sell a product to make a Dollar. Girls should leave themselves natural – the way they were intended to be. If a man wants something hairless, then he should get a plastic doll.
DONT shave the bikini line & underarms.Hair is sexy.
I think hair is sexy, but not great bushes of it. I reckon the principle of “Go forth, multiply, and subdue the earth” applies. Cute under-arm hair is very nice, but it’s not cute when there are beards growing out of your pits.
And personally I like vaginas; it may need a trim so that it can be seen in all its splendor, but shaved?!?!? No way!
I really don’t care what men or marketing moguls want me to be or not be. I freakin HATE body hair! I wouldn’t care if being a hairy ape suddenly came into style. I’d still wax everything from the eyes down. Nothing feels better than slipping between freshly washed sheets with a totally slick body. My boyfriend loves it, but that’s just an added bonus in my book because I wax for ME.
I like the 1900 to 1999 look on a female. You know…shaved legs and pits; regular fur down below. Us guys dealt with fur on a woman down below and we never complained. So why are guys complaining now? Oh, I got it…hair in your mouths. Tell you what…if you knew what you were doing, you wouldn’t get hair in your mouths. Besides, cut chicks some slack. We (guys) don’t understand the maintenance they (women) already go through, so why start making additional conditions? Just be grateful she’s bothering with your moron a**.
hair causes a smell..shave..it for you own good.
I go down all the time and never have a problem getting “hair stuck in my teeth”.
I have a 4 year old daughter. I have a 32 year old wife. I’d like their groins to be differentiated.
I like girls who don’t shave. I think it’s awesome. So it’s not correct to say that all guys find it disgusting.
To Shave or not. Shave Please. Public hair serves 3 functions 1) trap pheromones 2) Insulates and 3) acts as whiskers. We are not cavemen any more so pheromones are not as important. Insulates why I prefer all the great feelings and whiskers I don’t want to know ahead of time whats she about to do.
Also, I will go down on her much more often and longer if I’m not eating all that hair.
Most Girls I know complain of hair and not being told when the guy is about to Cum.
Just my opinion
Paul D
Thanks everyone for the debate over bushy vs. tame, but when I say don’t shave I’m not saying, don’t keep your pubic zone trimmed. What I’m saying is, wax the bikini line. Get laser hair removal. It’s just better not to shave. But please, leave the Chia pets to your kitchen windows.
I have a question for all you men who so adamantly say women need to be bare. Do you do the same that you are asking of us? If not, shut it!!!!
Agree with all who say a woman should look like a woman and not a prepubescent girl. That borders on pedophilic.
There is nothing more beautiful than an unshaven bush.
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There isn’t anything wrong with shaving. Actually, i think it helps! There’s nothing worse than hairs stick on your dick.
Conformity? Sure they make a few bucks on shaving, but you pay for shampoo as well, so is that awful too?
… It’s not even something to argue about. There is nothing negative about Shaving. I consider someone that doesn’t shave unclean. Period.
Shave yourself and look GOD DAMN SEXY!!!
Not shave yourself and look GOD DAMN UGLY!!!
Woman is the Crowning Jewel of creation , the hair on her body is part of that amazing and stunning beauty ! You don’t need to shave Ladies, you need a real man, who appreciates a real woman in her beautiful natural state !!
I DONT CARE WHAT ANYBODY SAYS I DONT LIKE THE BALD LOOK BUT I NEVER HAD A RAINFOREST TO BEGIN WITH …LIL PEACH FUZZ WONT KILL U!!
I agree, i like a bit of hair down their. Who said it needs to be completely bald.
Firstly, I am shaved. What an utter pain in the ass, I have to keep up with it. I am 24 years old, and I feel like I am 12. It feels nice for like the first 4 hours then not so much. If a man doesnt like me if I chose not to shave, then really why am I wasting my time. Actually the whole shaving thing is a huge waste of time, if all women spent the time learning a new word or making the inside more beautiful then shaving themselves, or waxing or any of the (capital) ideas we follow women as a sex could inhance themselves and break though the many stereotypes we still endure today….. To shave or not to shave…. Get a life, it is your choice, no one elses and no one can tell you how to keep your body, (or it’s hair) not the media, not this blog and least of all men. take power and make your own choices.
i think girls should shave their legs and underarms, and trim bikini area – personally i think no hair looks wierd, but loads is pretty gross too!
tbh i think you should shave or wax but its up to you you dont want to have hairs poking out your bekini in the summer do you ? hair is gross but if you dont have nay you feel like a 8 yr old which is off putting aswell
i surely would like to know you women who dont shave. Im from europe, and here they shave most of the time. how is t in america?
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I shave my legs and underarms and trim it down there, all very sexy, just to run to mirror and see my beautiful body, my skin, my curves, etc. and keep being so in love with myself.
To all the men who claim shaving down there is unnatural, I’m curious to know what your take is on a woman who doesn’t shave her legs or under her arm. If we’re going to talk about what’s “natural” let’s not discriminate. We could argue that you shaving your face is unnatural. For that matter, cutting hair is unnatural. Shaving unwanted hair down there is not more unnatural than shaving unwanted hair under the arm, on your legs or on a man’s face.
I simply don’t like hair in unwanted places.. it is disturbing and disgusting. Under the arm, when is hot sun, you start to stink more than a man. Your unshaved legs looks more like dog legs. Down there is just annoying when having sex.
Being “normal” costs reputation and pleasure and neither i do not know how u guys would look at a hairy woman.
Shave or not, it’s up to you girls. I’m male and hairy all over. Personally I like to see an adult vagina that is waxed, shaved or hairless. I think a lady may choose just to trim or not do anything with the hair on their vagina and that is their choice, I just find a bald vagina more sexy. It isn’t paedophilia because I like it to look like an adult, not a child. In fact if you have nothing showing I’d rather see a little hair, like a landing strip.
I choose not to be shaved, I even have a neatly trimmed beard, and if you don’t like a hairy man I guess we wont be having sex. You have a right to choose too.
I have asked my girl friends to shave since 1984. All have complied.. We had great sex all the time. My wife quit shaving and we quit having sex. I shave also and like the feelings. Girls that don’t shave probably don’t have many guy go down on them.
Ladies, with all respect to those who prefer it “natural”: I just love it nicely shaved. I like the look, the touch and the feeling. And I appreciate the attantion that a women gives to herself when taking care of that. If you like your own body, you take care of it.
I agree to the comments that ask the same care from men. Yes, boys, take a look into the mirror, get your fat belley off, stop smoking and be a gentleman. That’s my philosophy.
Well, I too like my wife shaved, she told me if I wanted it that way to do it myself. So… I shave her 1-2 times every week now. She’s admitted the “bare feel” is more pleasurable to her. And the intimate attention is a plus in itself!
My fiance keeps me trimmed and tidy with an electric razor. My hair is usually less than 1mm to 3mm(Surely he’s not getting hair in his mouth at that length you idiots) We both find being entirely bald so childish and unfeminine! On the occasion that I shave (Granting that sometimes being entirely bald is a nice sensation)I still leave some sort of ‘landing strip’ or triangle. Plus, the electric razor leaves the short peach fuzz/stuble to be soft… Unlike a razor which leaves a prickely, razor burnt mess. THUS, a nice trim does the trick and any “man” that complains about a little hair is really a boy.
I just shaved like yesterday at 6 in the after noon and its 4:15 right now… it hasn’t been 24 hours and it’s already starting to itchh and burn and just annoying.. I think girls should DEFF. not have a bush.. seriously! But I also agree that shaving is annoying and pain.. and you have to do it like every 12 hours.. so it’ll stay “smooth” or whatever… but since I’m like on neither side.. i think.. even I will start trimming.. and leave it like reallly short.. shortest as possible but not.. shaving. It’s incredible.. im only 13… and I have to go through this..
everyone has different preferences and its really up to them what they want to do. but you should never let a guy tell you to take it all off if you dont want to. oh, and as a nurse, i can tell you hair does have a purpose..even if it is kinda gross. it helps with friction and keeping all your fluids from making you feel slimy! one thing though, a 13 year old should not be extremely concerned with something like this. i dont know why youre even commenting on this page..
My fiance has hair around her bikini area but I don’t care, I find it her choice if she wants to shave, wax, laser etc. I love her no matter if she baby ass smooth or not. I still go down on her, 1. She loves it and I love making my woman feel her best sexually. 2. I enjoy doing it, that’s all I can say. Women have their own unique beauty, rather physical, mental, spiritual or emotional, they all have some elegance to them. And to the comment to women should worry about pleasing men. If there were no women in the world…what would men really have? Even homosexual guys, They carry our future in their wombs. I believe women should get their upmost respect they deserve.
John, I love your comment! I love how you show respect towards women
Well, I haven’t done waxing before, but I think it’d be a happy medium to wax off the bikini line.
I’ve only shaved a few times and I did not like the look as it made me look like I was a little kid.
But I do like the idea of looking tidy, so waxing the bikini line is what I’d go for.
hairy vaginas are back in stop listening to all these little boys who haven’t left grade school yet.Guys would you shave or wax everything and i mean evrything if that became the norm I didn’t think so. so let them grow the few real men out here love them.
Why does it seem like the most immature comments come from people who like a hairless body? Are you adults or just enjoy being stupid?
You have a Preference, good for you. That should not cause you to force it on people you will never meet. That does not give you the right to insult someone. Your opinion and personal taste is not going to trump someone else no matter how much you cuss.
To find disgust with the Human Body tells a lot about you. We’re humans and we have differences on what is attractive, there is no law set for what attractive is…there never will be. We don’t need a group of Trolls going around and telling others “You’ll never be good enough.”
I find it fascinating that we all develop different tastes and that we are so easily swayed by marketing campaigns. There are lots of things we do because at some point someone decided they were appealing: high heels, make up, shaving, piercing, etc. Even the way we smell has become a social phenomenon, since smelling good usually means smelling pleasantly of some artificial scent, like soap or cologne, with little to no natural body odor. I participate in it all: I prefer smooth legs and underarms for myself, and shaved legs on any woman with visible hair (some lucky women have fine down on their legs, even as adults), I like to be clean and I look better with make up, but it’s kind of funny that we take our fads and rituals so seriously, especially because they tend to change over time.
I believe girls should do what they want. All guys want is big tits, nice skinny body, tanned, and shaved women. truly i shave to. but thats not the point. not all fat and ugly women dont shave some others dont shave niether. so ladies! do what you want. Shaving down there is bad. it makes red bumps, ingrown hairs, it itches, and grows longer and thicker. I know cause im in that situation. do what you want dont do it for the guys
Shaving anywhere, male or female, is absolutely unnecessary. Women do not have as much body hair as men do. Perhaps it’s because I’m a freak natural white blonde, but my leg hair is invisible, and I have substantially less armpit hair than even my 12 year old nephew. The Ancient Egyptians did not view a shaved pubic area as best, as shown by their art. They shaved their heads, due to the heat. People would shave their bodies to cut down on lice, which were common. In this modern world, we shower daily, have better soaps, and have anti lice treatments. In my opinion, based on personal experience, a full bush actually increases sexual pleasure, because your partner can play with the hair. I don’t shave anywhere, I get horrid razor burn and ingrown hairs, and my hair is too fine for waxing, too light for laser, and too fine for electro. (Back when I used to shave my pits, back in 6th grade, I couldn’t get a clean shave then, and I doubt I will now!) Basically, shaving was a horror story for me. I do not smell, I use deodorant, I wear makeup. Men do not smell if they wear deodorant and shower daily and eat a healthy diet, even with their body hair. My bush doesn’t stick out of my bikini, same deal with all the other women who I know that do not shave there, providing one gets a swimsuit in a size that fits them, not one that’s a few sizes too small. Yes, it does bulge if dry, but honestly, who is paying that much attention to that area at the beach? The only reasonable reason to shave is pure laziness. If you wash there, and condition the hair, it’s soft and you don’t have to worry about getting hairs stuck in your mouth. Same deal with guy’s beard hair… If a person chooses not to condition the hair and wash it thoroughly, then yes, it will be tougher, and it is more natural, but it is one’s own choice. I prefer soft hair on everyone. Plus, it’s fun to dye it. 3 inch long blue pit and pubic hair tends to lead to some interesting reactions from partners. Sadly, a lot of guys are brainwashed. There are guys out there that do not mind, but I remember back in high school, there was exactly one guy who didn’t mind it. Then I started hanging out with more accepting people, once I got into college. I’m not fat, ugly or unclean, I just don’t shave. Even if there was a miracle hair removal solution created, I would keep my hair, because I find it attractive. I find it not as attractive when a guy shaves, even his face. But if you want to shave/remove hair for whatever reason, that is your own choice. Just don’t make things up about it. For me, shaving or removing hair is not an option, and I personally find it gross. If you find it gross to not shave on yourself, and find it not sexually attractive, that is your own choice. But if you are a straight female, you shouldn’t really care if it’s attractive or not on me, and refuse to talk to people who don’t. (I remember the good old days in high school, and even in some jobs I’ve had, it’s amazing how people get, homophobic and caring about what an able worker does to her own body, in a job not based on appearances…) I support women/men who choose not to shave, and if you support people who do, that is your own choice. I will never take your razor away if you are using it for shaving. So don’t shave my pits or give me a razor. I won’t give you hairy people porn. I’m sure my fashion sense is not attractive to many people. I’m sure my mohawk scares away some guys. A fair number of punks don’t shave their armpits or pubes, but I know this isn’t the mainstream. Most guys in my age range believe the media images of what beauty is, but I’d rather not date a guy that doesn’t actually have a personal preference, but would refuse to date me for not shaving, because it’s not normal… As I’ve hung out with more uniquely acting people, I’ve not had a problem getting lovers. With the anti capitalist mindset, it is much easier and cheaper to get a fair trade shampoo, conditioner and soap than it is to buy a razor with the same standards. Razors also have much more waste associated with them. Richard, when I went to Europe, I didn’t see a single woman who shaved/waxed? I was in Spain, Germany and Norway, mostly hanging out with metalheads/punks though, and it was winter. Most women that I saw with body hair appeared to bleach it, but many in the group of people that I was traveling with did not do anything. It looked like a good number of them plucked their eyebrows though.
This is an interesting topic, for me in particular. I’ve been talking at length with my girlfriend about what she likes and what she wants. I have always been a fan of sex whether the vaj is hairy shaped trimmed or bald. After talking with her at length I realized that she like alot of women on this forum here believe that in some ways it’s degrading for men to demand that women shave or trim or shape etc. Art depicts the female form with pubic hair I don’t find it to be a problem at all in fact I really don’t notice it and she’s not like a freak of nature or anything but she has fairly thick hair down there it’s actually quite arousing when she does a little strip tease or something and the “bush” reveals itself. I see no need unless SHE…now pay attention to that SHE guys decides she wants to alter her pubic area if it makes her feel sexy to shave down there then by all means if it makes her feel more feminine or sexy to have a full blown bush then let her do that too. I was as skeptical as alot of guys seem to be on here especially the ones that can’t spell but after WE talked about why she wanted to try growing it out back at the end of September I found it to be quite nice actually I feel like I’m having sex with a woman not a 12 year old. In the summer she has said that she will shave or wax her bikini line which makes sense that’s not a problem but guys I’ll tell ya’ until she had grown hers out I had never seen anything more than a very trimmed landing strip on any of my partners and I was skeptical and now I’m under the impression that the more it grows the more I like it it gives her a certain degree of mystery and it’s nice. There is no different smell or taste to the area it just has hair on it as opposed to not and it makes sex more enjoyable for her because there is no irritation of the shaved area. To all the ladies out there whether you decide to wax shave or let it grow I say do whatever makes you happy because we men are at your mercy it’s up to you when we get to see what’s down there anyway. And guys, trust me I’m probably the most pro male person I know but don’t degrade your ladies femininity by making or or demanding that she do something let her have some say so in the matter you might find that she’s more open to your ideas occassionally if you do this, and don’t knock it til ya’ try it like I said I’m 24 yrs old and I’d never seen a bush except online and in person it’s actually kind of sexy!
as gross as this is, i like to trim, ONLY TRIM, just because some of the vaginal fluid can make a mess down there which is unpleasant to myself.
do whatever you want, but because you want to, not because you’re subjecting to someone.
This is a timely discussion. My boyfriend has been away for 3 months and returns in 2 weeks. I’ve been talking to people at work, and several of the younger women wax. Yikes! I just don’t think that appeals to me. I am older and not into the smooth, perfect look. However, I want to be appealing, and since oral sex is a favorite of both of ours, I want to add to the enjoyment. My boyfriend says when I shave, he gets a razor burn from performing oral sex, even when I shave moments before we have sex. So, I think I’ll just trim. I also was shaving because some gray is starting to show, which I find very disturbing, but trimming might help hide that as well. Getting old is hell! So, sounds as if I am not being unreasonable to subject myself to monthly waxings, yes?
Women shaving their legs and underarms is fine, but shaving the pubic area totally bare? I’m not into that…Neatly trimmed is quite sufficient..To me, if she shaves totally bare, it makes her look childish..Adult women are supposed to have pubic hair, just as adult men are
I also just trim the area and shave below the legs. It saves a lot of time, money, AND pain. Fortunately for me, my partner has no problem with this. He loves me and I love him all natural.
I also think women and men have hair in certain places for a real good reason. Just think about it. Humans need hair to protect them from the environment and body fluids.
I feel like a woman and very sexy even though I don’t shave down there. I suggest woman do whatever makes them feel good about themselves and not what the media says you should look like because you live in the real world, not what you see in movies or TV.
When was the last time you saw a man with bare genitals? Why isn’t it even part of the discussion?
Seriously, why are you people debating over this?? The simplest way: Just let the people do what they want. Mind your own business. Some guys like it clean and hairless, some guys like it unshaven. Face it. Different people, different opinion. SO, SHUT UP!!
As a matter of fact, I do shave my balls and my penis. Then I trim my pubic hair up to my naval and that is what I like to see on my woman. Not shaved bald but not chia pet either. Neat and trimmed like the hairs on the head. It should look like a Hallmark card, when you care enough to send your very best.
My boyfriend and I have been talking about this for a while now and although he’s keen for me to do it, he knows it’s my choice. I’m not too keen on the idea of shaving the whole lot off, but trimming it right down is fine for me. I’m 18 and I’ve only trimmed a few times before. Why? Well, I’m comfortable with the way I am now. And as for you guys who think women were only born to please men (yes this is aimed at you Paul) well you need a good kick where the sun don’t shine. We’re independent, living, breathing human beings, just like you, and we can do whatever we like with our bodies. I for one will never do something a guy tells me to, if I don’t want to. I admit that hair all over IS reasonably unnattractive, but if people like it like that, then I respect that. We all have different opinions. Oh, and if anyone thinks I’m unattractive or disgusting for not shaving it all off, just remember that I don’t care. You don’t know who I am so you have absolutely no right to judge me. And one last thing, I’ve never once shaved that area of my body and I’ve had no problems getting boyfriends in the past, thanks very much. =)
I am not sure what is worse, the fact that I wasted my time reading this garbage or that there are so many people with such strong opinions about a meaningless subject.
I think that tweens,teens,and women should remove the pubic hair. i think they should do that for the men if they plan on having sex. if they are just preparing for the season then i agree they should not remove their pubic hair
I’m young, attractive, successful and have had plenty of sexual experience, and i don’t shave. It is a myth that it is only fat, ugly people who do this.
Women shouldn’t feel pressured by the media, their peers or men to do anything to their bodies that they don’t want to do.
A true man will love you for who you are on the outside, but more importantly on the inside! They will respect the decisions that you make about your body.
Now go love yourself!
I also feel that shaving or not shaving is an individual’s own decision. I am curious to know, however, of those men and women who do shave their pubic hair, does the sexual experiences for male and female feel any more or less pleasurable. I hope some of you will share your views based on what you have experienced in your own lives. Thanks everyone
Wow. Why is this blown into such a big deal!? Do what makes you comfortable! If that’s being natural keep it. If it is shaving, do that…end of discussion
Wow this has been blown way out of proportion. Personally, I don’t shave. My boyfriend doesn’t mind and goes down on me all the time. Girls; do what you want. If guys have a problem with it, they can deal with it. It’s your body, your choice.
I think it is a big deal.
Personally I always hated shaving, I get horrible bikini rash and unsightly irritation.
But I understand with the prevalence of porn the majority of my partners would prefer I keep it bare down there, so I deal.
I would love to keep it natural, but I know until I find an understanding man I wouldn’t get any. Problem.
We all ask things of our partners, sacrifices are the core of relationships. It just shows I respect his desires, just as I hope he does the same for me.
Its unfair to tell men to suddenly change their preferences. We cannot dictate what other people like and don’t like.
Sure, I wish I didn’t have to worry about staying smooth, but it reaffirms that I care and strengthens my relationships.
Girls,
If you’re not comfortable going bald, that’s your prerogative and more power to you. Stick it to the Man. But don’t call men pigs just because of what happens to please them.
Guys,
Understand some women don’t enjoy the effort and result of consistent maintenance, so tell your lady you appreciate her taking time for your pleasure.
Shaving is a choice – some people may consider it necessary, and that’s worthy of respect. I find it more comfortable to shave. Nothing wrong with comforming if it helps you in some way.
Shaving is NOT conforming… Unless you do it for someone else… And I seriously doubt that EVERY women in the world who has ever shaved (any part) of her body did it for another person… Some people just like it and some people don’t! Let it go!
Hey,
This article is very true but I have a HUGE BEAUTY CRISIS relating to this! For the last year I’ve been shaving the bikini area atleast twice a week. My bikini area bumbs and gets cronicly more then any other case I’ve ever seen! I continued to shave despite the painful and ugly bumps because I thought shaving was just not an option! They are simply unsightly and extend an inch outside of the bikini line!
The bumps aren’t even my biggest concern, the bumps eventually turned into very dark and noticeable scars and discolouration around that area. the worst part is that I model bikini’s! Help me with any advise you could possibly give me….
Are there any possible products or procedures I should consider?? Anyway to bleach that area? What should I do and not do?? PLEASE HELP!
-Krisa
As a man, I feel it is completely up to the woman to decide how she prefers to keep her pubic area; it is her body and if she wants to shave or not, then it should be her choice alone and not be based upon what some guy thinks.
My personal preference is for a woman to have hair in her pubic region. I love the way it looks and feels. Yet, regardless, I would never refuse to be with a woman just because of the way she prefers to keep herself in this regard. I have been with women who have had full bushes, been trimmed, been completely bare and everything in between and it has never affected our sexual activities. I think that guys who insist that a woman shave before they will go down on them are being completely self-centered spoiled brats! Hair has never affect my ability to perform oral sex on a woman, which is my favorite activity. Besides, as a man who has long hair and a full beard and mustache, any stray hair that may end up in my mouth is more than likely my own!
So girls, shave only because you want to for you and not because of us guys. And for those women who choose to keep the pubic hair, know that there still are plenty of us guys who would love to get to know you in the most personal of ways!
As a guy I find body hair on a women most sexy. Looks more natural women not a little child.
oh my days… does it matter what other people think ? lol
Paul, Jeannie and Man:
Attitudes like yours are exactly what is wrong with American society. Let me address these issues:
Paul, you say “don’t you realize you’re supposed to be pleasing men and not yourselves?” No, not really. My life doesn’t revolve around the opinions of others–I was made in the image of God perfectly, just as I am. So no, I don’t think I’m supposed to be pleasing men.
Jeanie: Sister, what can I say? You drank the Kool-Aid, as have most American women. Put down the Cosmo and read some Cohen, cara mia. Their standards don’t have to be yours.
Man: Not at all. I’m all of 4′ 10″, a small half Native American woman. No, we’re not all fat and ugly, and Native women don’t have much body hair to begin with due to our Asian ancestry.
Hopefully that’s taken care of some of the problem.
I wax, but only for myself.
I much prefer the look and feel being bare gives me. I’m more confident in my appearence and its much more clean.
Ladies, Please, PLEASE don’t listen to these little boys that think looking like a little girl is sexy.
Most men are perplexed about the obsession women have for shaving their pubic hair.
Having pubic hair has almost become phobia which is sad. It’s there because men find it very sexy and it’s not what you see… it’s what you don’t see and leave to your imagination that’s really sexy and HOT!
I’ve found most men I’ve spoken to on the subject didn’t like to see a woman totally or extremely shaved because it made her look like a little girl and that doesn’t interest most “real” men.
This is not to say men want a “cave woman”. A neat and modest trim to accommodate today’s swim wear is perfect.
Another MYTH is you must shave because it’s good hygiene. I’ve recently read there is a new process to curb any problem in this area. It’s called soap and water and daily bathing.
In fact, most men tend to think women who shave, do so because the don’t have good hygiene habits, so the next time someone tells you shaving is the “Chic” thing to do, think twice about the type of men or lounge lizards you’ll attract.
For the record…..any man that hates pubic hair because it gets in the way doesn’t know what the hell he’s doing anyway.
I like women who show off their bulging bushes in bikinis or swimsuits. As long as they keep it trimmed right outside of them.
Recent studies have proven that both medically and sociologically removing the pubic hair is not good. Pubic hair actually is a protective barrier protecting a women from bacterial infection such as MRSA. Also based on clinical sociological studies, most men prefer some pubic hair on a women,as well as the fact that the hair unlike one of the posters above said actually increases sensativity not decreases.
ummm…what if us women shave but we leave a landing strip??? Personally if i was a guy looking at girls with just a landing strip would turn me on like no other. So thats my opinion!!
There IS a good compromise between shaving with a razor blade and having a forrest growing.
Use an electric shaver. Keeps hair grown in check, allows a little bit of air circulation, no ingrown hairs, bumps or razor burn. It’s even faster and less expensive.
As for Dr Lori K’s proof, that is just selective bias and questionable myth generation. There is no barrier there is just less perpetual moisture. Most men do not prefer a lot of pubic hair, and it does not increase (or substantially decrease) sensitivity. It is troubling to see someone masquerading as a Dr using such logic.
Hey Fluffy! Read something beyond Bill and Jane went to town. Dr. Lori is correct. Pubic hair is there for a reason and as a “man” I can tell you the little boys who have convinced you that….”As you say “most men” DO NOT prefer a lot of pubic hair is supporting his pre-pubescent stage in life or determined to off set his short comings……. LOL….
Make no mistake, real men like women to look like women….not little girls. If you want to attract “little” boys…..shave so you look like a little girl.
im all for keepin it clean down der but lukin and feelin like a 9 yr old is i bit perverse..who invented the hollywood? that person should be locked up..i do keep it trim down there and take reg trips to the waxing salon but any1 who keeps it natural and still has great sex is a legand!!!!!!!!!
I love (read hate) that in an article about the health risks of a women’s beauty procedure, the first reaction of several men is to cry loudly about how much they want it done anyway. Not every woman cares more about arousing the highest possible percentage of men than doing what makes her happy and comfortable (e.g., lesbians, women with self-esteem). By the way, women don’t shave their vaginas, since vaginas don’t have hair in them! Guys who can’t tell the difference between the vulva and the vagina probably can’t find the clitoris or g-spot, either… so why should a woman go out of her way to please bratty, self-centered guys who are shit in bed?
I choose to shave, personally, but you’re hardly making a compelling case for the women who choose not to.
i say women should do whatever they want for their bodies and not care about what everyone else thinks, it’s no one’s body but theirs so they should rise above the message that is being sent to women through the media and they should do what they want for their bodies and not care what other people think. i personally don’t shave because it’s not natural we didn’t come to this planet with razors in our hands we came with hair on our bodies and as the beatles said, let it be.
Okay, well first, everyone who’s commented on this, has gotten the subject all wrong. The subject is to not use razors when you shave. She dosn’t mean not to shave down there at all. She’s saying to wax and ect. because of course shaving that area is painful! Me and my boyfriend actually got into an argument about this not too long ago. I don’t shave completly, I just shave around the pantie and bikini line. My boyfriend told me I should shave it off completly, for the reasons that it feels better during sex. But, I respect my body!! If I don’t want to do something, than I’m not going to do it. Especually if it’s for some guy. Even though he is my boyfriend, I’m not going to degrade my body over something stupid. I respect myself and my body. & I’m only 15 but I’m NOT going to get pushed around by a guy, they can get over it.
I’m only 16 and i decided to experiment with shaving down there once a few months ago. i only shaved a tiny part at the top and let me tell you, the next few weeks were HORRIBLE! as the hair grew back it became so painful, unbelievably itchy and i developed a really sore rash. I am NEVER going to shave down there EVER again. and if a guy ever tells me to in the future, he can piss off. Women have to go through so many painful things, like waxing, eyebrow plucking, high heels(that cause blisters and bunions, corns etc.), the wires underneath some bras, thongs etc. Plus the countless number of annoying things like painting toenails, shaving armpits everyday, periods(cramps, tampons, remembering when you’re on), waiting for your body to finally develop so you don’t look like your best friend’s little sister, trying to stay slim whilst being offered really nice food 24/7, and basically, a hell of a lot of things that just get on my nerves all the time. Not to mention i’m probably eventually going to have to go through one of the most painful experiences known to man, or should i say woman. childbirth! I’d like to see a guy shove a baby through his penis-hole! All this, and some guys have to be so shllow and self-absorbed that they can’t respect any of that and demand that we suffer from burning rashes down there everyday, just so they don’t get hair between their teeth. They seem to be fine getting stuff between their teeth when it’s food, and they’re in a fancy restaurant!! How much more vain can a guy get? I think it’s fine if a woman shaves/waxes/trims down there for HER, but not if it’s just to please someone as low, and as disgusting as a man (no offense to the guys who actually respect women’s opinions, i’m talking about the pigs that don’t).
well i think not shaving on a irl makes me feel unclean wen i dont shave and i think we do look like apes wen we dont shave but we should also have achoice without a boy startcrining how would they like it if we were sik all over them because of their un shaved/waxed pubes ?exactly we dont half of you guys dont shaveor wax some of you neaten up slightly but how come we need to look decent be 4 a shag n you dont? thats wat i think anyways!
I’ll trim my bikini area (both to make the hairs really short and to have only a thinner area overall and keep it neat) but I WILL NOT shave. I’d rather have hair down there then nasty razor bumps, ingrown hairs, itching, you name it. YUCK. And for WHAT? If a guy “requires” me to shave, fine. HIM FIRST though.
I HATE that women shave their bikini area. There is nothing more UNsexy than red bumps down there. There is nothing more sexy than a little pubic hair sticking out of the sides. It is natural, normal and greatly desired by men.
I personally like as litle hair as possible, i feel so much more confident about myself. I agree the bumps and lumps that can be left are awful and not sexy but there are some good tools out there which don’t results in these bumps. At the end of the day its up to the GIRL not the guy. what ever we want to do with our bodies is up to us. Those guys that are saying GO AND SHAVE NOW OTHERWISE NO GUY WILL WANT YOU! are full of shit and need a realitly check because to be fair honey, i hate the bush on guys so why dont YOU go shave it!!
Some of these feminist ladies out there need to calm down. Nobody is making you get rid of your 1970’s shag rug, just don’t expect any action with that dense rain forest you have going on. Shaving/waxing is a simple thing that ladies can do for their men, and its almost always rewarded. Its the gift that keeps on giving.
i hate hair on men and women
i dont like hair down there or anywhere else except head and eyebrows
i could never have sex or give head to a guy who has hair down stairs(i might puke!)
but its a personal choice(do it if u want to)
i shave and so does my boyfriend
Jeez, please women, shave it and you be pleasured out of your mind for it, guaranteed. let me put it in perspective for you: i am sure as hell that your man will show his appreciation and gratitude for you extra time spent in the shower or salon or what have you. it is not about oppressing women at all; it is simple, it’s not even so much how it looks when shaved or not shaved, it’s about cleanliness. speaking out of experience women who are well kept in their genital area (no hair) are generally more cleaner. it is nice to know that your partner that you are being intimate with is very clean, esp. as you are about to take the plunge into mouth to genital contact. am i right?
men and women should both shave
it is about being clean
oral action is better if ur both clean
but its upto you(its not about oppression, do what
u want, some guys like a lil bit of it)
but i like my man clean!
There’s a lot of interesting comments on here. I know a lot of women can’t shave down there cuz they’ll get razor bumps or razor burn (which is disgusting btw) because pubes are curly and cause ingrown hairs. My girlfriend had this problem and used to use this cream called Moore Unique razor rash cream or something to that effect. It cleared it up and I showed my appreciation.
It is NOT about the sex, it is NOT about your PARTNER.
IT IS ABOUT HYGIENE
it’s about being clean; God gave you a body, take care of it!
(getting rid of the pubic hair is as natural as cutting the hair on your head;))
Both men and women should shave/trim or whatever they feel comfortable with.
This is not an option. You DON’T want to smell.
Women use to be hairy. Well, women also use to shower about once a year!!
PROGRESS = CLEAN
I think it’s ridiculous that men have laid this burden to be hairless upon women…as if women don’t have enough to deal with; monthly bleeding, childbirth, glass ceilings, needing to “take care” of men that were brought up by mothers who made them feel as if they needed to be catered to. Men should be brought up to be independent, able to fend for themselves i.e. clean a house, wash their own clothes and make a balanced meal and simply to see women as partners). I’m amazed by many of the comments by men on this thread and I’m hoping that many of them aren’t serious.
Back to the need for women to be hairless..Why the need to change what God/evolution, whichever you believe, gave you? Hair can grow in a variety of colors, textures, designs, it can look GREAT, can be CLEAN, and smell VERY good. CAN enhance sexual stimulation when learned. It protects the skin from rubbing up against itself by providing a layer of air/insulation which prevents moisture from remaining on the skin by encouraging evaporation. This moisture, if it remains on the skin can lead to moisture rashes, fungal/bacterial infections, skin break down. In the vulvar area it essentially aids in keeping dirt, bugs, etc OUT (if you notice on women with straight hair, it grows outward, much like the hair in the ear canal).
I prefer dating women who choose not to shave (some of us like to hunt for our food), because I think it’s a frame of mind and thought. Someone not needing to conform to senseless patterns, who is willing to be who and what they are; and are happy with who and what they are. Not that they are perfect, since none of us are…i.e. Only those who understand what I am saying, will know where I’m coming from.
Break the leash! No need to shave! There are plenty of men, myself included, that like the natural look. Women who shave it all off, to me and my wife, look too much like prepubescent little girls or teenagers, which are in no way appealing. Seems kind of sick to have sex with a woman who is trying to look like a minor and not a real woman.
How ridiculous some of you are
Have hair.Don’t have hair.You don’t know each other.Who gives a sh*t!?Its a damn nuisance to have to get rid of hair all the time.Eyebrows/moustache/arms/legs/armpits/nipples/happy trail/pubes.Good job I can’t get to my back or I’d probably be doing that too :p Being a pale skinned hairy brunette kinda sucks sometimes.Cut us some slack.Having hair doesn’t mean you’re dirty.If you’re dirty – have a bath!Dumb asses.
The only part of me I shave is my underarms. A lot of people are pretty weirded out when they see my hairy legs, but I have enough confidence not to care. (Many people have told me I’m gorgeous
) I have an amazing boyfriend who doesn’t shave either– I love his sexy beard!!– and is very supportive of me being natural as well. I think shaving your pubic hair is bullshit– just a commercial ploy to get women to spend more money and obsess over yet another aspect of their appearance.
If we consider the actual purpose of hair removal from the armpits, bikini area or male penile area, it is just for the health.
If we men or women, do not remove these hair, our body remain uncleaned and there remain more chances of getting ill. I learned once that there is a “Curing procedure” which just focus on steaming the bikini area to get overall health.
I am 15 and I have a boyfriend who has “went down on me” before, and we have been together over a year. I used to shave, and then I was sick for a whole week and didn’t get to and he saw the short hair on me and he said he always had liked trimmed, not a bush, and not shaved. But trim and tidy. And that is what I have been doing. Then he told me last week he wanted me to shave again. Wth? When I shaved, he shaved, and when I didn’t, neither did he. He asked me to shave again today when I did yesterday and it burns and hurts right now. I am sick of this because I feel like my neice who is 5. I am going to tell him today that I am trimming, not shaving. If he loves me, which I know he does, he will be fine with it. We aren’t with each other because of that and we aren’t going to split b/c of hair. It is really your choice, but c’mon people. Lighten up a little. Does it really matter? No. I only object if there is so much down there that something could get lost. Other than that, grow up.
I honestly find that pubic hair is very sexual on a woman. Of course, the hair should be shaven along the bikini lines but a neatly trimmed but thick bush is a fetish of mine. I trim my girlfriends but leave enough for me to run my fingers through it to grab and pull while I’m orally pleasing her. And she trims mine weekly also-she’s very relaxed when she sucks me so trimming my black curls gets rid of the problem she had when her nose pressed firmly against my body.
To each their own I say, but ladies if your man is attracted to a shaved muff my suggestion is shave it! I sure as heck wish my wife would. I believe most girl’s nowaday do some type of shaving. It’s a real turn on at least to me. My wife refused for the longest time and I decided to take the lead. I shaved eveything down there and then my stomach. I now also trim all my body hair. She just recently realized that it was a real turn on, even after I told her so. She trimmed the bikini line and supprised me by moving my hand to her trimmed area. I was erect in less than 10 seconds. Now I will work on her to shave it all!
i was just reading all the comments and having a hard time
i was thinking shoul i or not? and reading and reading i just ask my man sould i? he said:” DoNT me Like it” and boom i was so happy i didnt made a wrong choice.God cread your body now respect it and the way to care about it its love ur self as u are and clean urself and be happy oooo and as ur man!!!!!!!!!
Women, first things first. STOP BASHING MEN.
You are all right in one way or another, but mainly for yourself. The tear is what it is and history is what it is and we are doomed to repeat it, just look around you. A shaved vagina is very nice as is one with hair. Nasty is when you have that hair and you wipe and leave stuff in the hair. Nasty! Your pee stays there and the smell does too, so no mater what you may want to think many times it is better if you shave.
Men are not to blame here for women shaving so dont give that a try it is false and if you knew much about life, history or philosophy you would never say that it was a mans fault.
I know there are many women who do not like men with beards and some do. The opposite is true for men liking a woman being shaved or not. Grow up. Stop blaming men you sound like most of the “afro americans” in our society. Accept responsibility for your actions and your need for consumption, after all it is consumerism that gets the ball rolling and if you did not want it it would NOT be selling so in the end you are to blame as are your foremothers.
I’m a chick, and I’ve shaved it before, and I felt like it looked like it did before I reached puberty. It was weird, but then it kind of felt “freeing”, until the hair started coming back, and I never wanted to shave it again. I think it looks nice not to have hair hanging out of your panties, I keep mine trimmed, but not shaved and it looks nice. I think a shaved bush makes it look kind of porno-ish.
I’d just like to chime in with an opinion to the contrary of most men (it seems). I strongly prefer women who DO NOT shave, pubic area particularly, (as rare as it is to find one nowadays). I have had trouble convincing women with whom I’ve had exclusive committed relationships to let their hair grow “down there”–Regardless of the fact that I actually found it natural and sexy, they were still not really comfortable with it.